Seemingly, my friends would rather discuss my blogs on gchat then leave me comments and make me feel special. :o( But yesterday, I felt like there was some adequate and pertinent discussion that should make it onto this forum. So I am knowingly taking the risk of publishing private chats... I was never very good at secrets anyway.
Sarah: I agree with you (as you know) that society really does ask nothing of men. It asks, "what happened to our precious flowers?" as if we just one day decided to all be sluts. At the same time as it laments, it tells us that if we don't like the way the new paradigm is, we have to change ourselves as if it was our fault that it resulted in the way it did.
Me: EXACTLY
Sarah: and essentially, "changing" means either reverting back to being the second sex, or accepting our whoredom and shutting up about how romance is dead. some choice. which is how people like you and me who don't want to be the second sex, but can't sustain ourselves emotionally in this system of uncaring hook-ups, end up falling through the cracks and feeling utterly misunderstood
me: sigh. this is why i love you
Sarah: indeed, and this is why our greatest love affairs have been with each other. I don't know if that's pathetic, but at least it's dignified.
me: hahahaha. so true
And another...
Carrie: i read your article too. it depressed me.
me: it pissed me off
Carrie: i refuse to believe that i can't have it all. and i'm like who are these women? i have no friends like that. at least who think they can't have both. they might not want both now, but they all want both eventually.
Carrie: what an annoying article for valentine's day...
So there it is...
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I have to say I as well I refuse to give into the idea that I can't have it all. That I can't have a fulfilling relationship while still remaining a virgin, apparantly a rarity at 21. I can't tell you how many relationships of mine have changed once he realized it wasn't going to happen. I refuse to buy into the idea that in order to see if we're compatible we have to sleep together. In the not so distant past it was common not to have sex until marriage, and also not as common to divorce, I don't think its so hard to see the corrolation here. Its a depressing sight every weekend to see friends of mine and friends of friends hooking up with random guys because they long for companionship, and all the while continue to claim they don't want anything serious, so anyone will do. Then to hear the other side from my male friends lament that they cannot find any "good, unused women" while still hooking up with lonely freshman every weekend.
I guess its just nice to hear I'm not along in this saga... even if it seems that way in NYC sometimes.
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